Tuesday, June 20, 2023

Just Because

 

Just Because

Sometimes a flower is expected just because you planted a seed. 

Sometimes beautiful music is expected just because you took music lessons and got an instrument.

Sometimes an A is expected just because you studied and thought you learned the material.

Sometimes being a pianist is expected just because you are the only white female in Tembisa.

Sometimes a great talk or lesson is expected just because you are a member of God's church.

Sometimes hosting the huge group with food etc for all expectations to make happy faces is expected just because you are the mom or the one asked to do it.

Sometimes we feel our efforts are huge and the outcome not perfect just because we can imagine such greater perfect things.

Sometimes we have an epiphany when the prophet says "the Lord Loves effort" and you remember the story of the loaves and the fish.  You realize the Lord smiles on your work and accepts the offering just because His love is so great. His walk with you is love and tenderness.  

Sometimes you realize the experience of that walk with Jesus is what was important just because God's love, understanding and tender mercy is very real.  

Sometimes a flower is expected just because you planted a seed.  Whether the flower comes or not, you planted.  

Just because you planted, that was walking with God and He accepts the offering.


Sunday, January 2, 2022

Putting away the Manger

 

I just love Christmas productions.  I love the patched together...imperfect...off key humans all coming together with the same desire to celebrate the birth of Jesus.  With limited skill, limited time, limited resources and ability, congregation after congregation offer up their "loaves and fishes" to the multitude.  These loving offerings are received into our hearts with endearment.  We are modern day followers of that star in the East; modern day souls who shepherd and seek wisdom and who are walking on that path to the savior of us all.  It's a beautiful thing.

I also love setting up Christmas.

Seeing the warmth of the room increase with the ornamented Christmas tree, stockings by the fireplace and a garland gracing the mantel, brings a feeling of peace to my heart.

As I was setting up Christmas, I was marveling about how amazing it is that this Christmas story didn't stay in Israel but has been a strong tradition in almost the whole world for a very long long time. The story was told and passed down and celebrated over and over again. As I thought about the beginning of Jesus life, I thought about the Wisemen, also called Magi and also known as Kings. 

Tradition tells us these kings were richly dressed and brought expensive gifts.  They must have also been well educated in order to understand the stars in the sky and notice the star of Bethlehem because even King Herod and his advisors didn't notice a new star. They were indeed very wise men because they seemingly had studied the prophecy's about the Savior's birth and had been watching for the sign.

So then what about the shepherds? They were of humble means, not rich or educated but they too learned about this great event via an angel who gave them the good news. 

No matter our role in life we still have Jesus. He is, in a way, all those things in the story. He was born in a manger which is a trough where animals go to eat or drink. This is so fitting because He is the Bread of Life and Living Water. We partake of these emblems with the sacrament.  Jesus is not only wise but He is our King of Kings and also our Good Shepherd.  We still have a star, or signs to watch for and to guide us to where Jesus is. We still have angels with us. This sweet story that was... still is!

The timing of things is interesting.  Even though Jesus was born in the spring, it seems fitting and even symbolic to celebrate His birth just before a brand new year. We celebrate, then put it all away as we enter something new.  Emily Belle Freeman says that putting away the manger is like Jesus leaving that stable and going about His work just like we do.

Yes, as much fun as it is to set up Christmas, I love taking it down. After an exhausting season filled to the brim, it feels so good to clean and put things away for a time and move onto something new...the next "square". 

Speaking of something new, Chris and I were playing the game of Life, an old board game, with the grandkids earlier this month. As we all drove our little cars around the board from square to square, landing on paydays and bankruptcies, winning a prize, paying taxes, going back to start etc. I realized something. This temporary life here on this planet is really like this board game! It's full of challenges and blessings and I'm on a totally different square today than I once was on. In a coming day I'll be on yet another square. This may seem like "duh" to you but it gave me a new perspective. When we get discouraged just think to yourself "it's ok, this is just the square I'm on at the moment. I'll be on another square soon" then be patient. It takes quite awhile to drive the whole game board and get to the safe place...the grand estate at the end. I have a feeling it'll be worth it!

Thursday, January 21, 2021

See What's Real

 

See What's Real
(To the tune of Shule Aroon)

Guide, guide, guide my way,  
Lead me on a brighter day.  
Left alone I surely wander, 
Never knowing where to go.

Words, words, fly the day
Mountains, molehills all the way,
Up or down and everywhere they go
They're living in a well of sorrow.

Look, look see the sun
Shining on a lonely one.
Crowded streets and lofty towers
Casting shadows on the people.

See, see, see what's real.
Show me, show them - caterpillars.
Help us shed our dark cocoon and
Live alive abundant beauty.

Help us bloom and grow our wings and
Live alive abundant beauty.



Saturday, November 2, 2013

Grandpa's Shoes are on a Mission

 

To Andrea on her mission                                      2013

Dear Andrea,

Grandpa’s Shoes are on a mission

There's a cute poem about an old shoe that became a home for Goldfinches:

Grandpa’s shoes cradle love,  old made new for a home of love. Now a crew of gorgeous loves are stuck like glue to their beloved: Grandpa's shoe filled with beauty thereof.        

While visiting family last month, I mentioned a story Sister Reber told us about a young African missionary at the MTC who was walking funny.  Sister Reber asked him about it and he told her that just before he left on his mission, his family gathered to see whose shoes would fit this elder the best.  Although the shoes were too small, his uncle’s shoes were closest to the size of his foot and so his kind uncle donated his own shoes to his nephew for his mission.

 Because this story touched the heart of my mother and my sisters-in-law, Brenda and Karen, the day before Chris and I headed back to Africa they gave us shoes that belonged to my Dad and two of my brothers..  They also gave us some shirts and even a suit to bring back with us.  On Thursday we delivered them into the hands of the MTC President so I can now officially say to my children: 

            “Grandpa’s shoes are on a mission!” 😊

They are at the MTC awaiting their call.  Whether it be Pretoria, Capetown, Congo or Zambia, somewhere in Africa a beautiful African missionary will march for the Lord, sharing the gospel in Grandpa’s shoes.

 

“How beautiful are the feet of them that preach the Gospel of peace, and bring glad tidings of good things!”  Romans 10:15

I love you Drea!!  Your shoes, my shoes, Dad’s shoes, soon Drewy’s shoes and even Grandpa’s shoes will all be in this together! 

I’m thinking of you, praying for you and hoping all good things for you.

Heavenly Father loves you and is pleased with what you are doing.  He is with you.

 Love Mom

Thursday, April 22, 2010

I Am the Little Mermaid


 
I am the little mermaid.  Not because I love the water but because the Sea Witch (called birth) stole away my voice.  I remember singing.  I sang like a flower opening to the sunshine.  I sang and sang and now I long to sing once more.  My lungs are small and throat weak.  I often pretend I still have my mermaid voice. Nobody knows I do this.  I sing and sing when no one hears. I love to sing on the stairs in the rose room.  It reverberates in there like an enchanted sea cave!  The roses applaud me with standing ovations.  "More! More!" they cry and I sing again until reality disappoints me and I come down the stairs and be myself again - until next time.

Next Time                                                                                                                      Again I sing myself inside out!  My soul sings from it's depths. I sing duets with birds and trees and flowers.  They love my sound and I love theirs.  People don't hear my sound. They size me up as not a singer so I don't sing for people.  I'm so happy God gave us flowers and sunshine to sing to.



Thursday, February 18, 2010

Caring


You know what?  It's really hard to know something is right and have others not believe you.  Especially when it is really important.  Especially when one of those is someone you love.  

If something really important is truly known and is something that will affect directly the lives of those who won't believe you, how far do you go to convince? If you orate to the point of annoyance, you soon become verbally invisible, like the Christmas decoration that you forgot to put away because you had become used to it and didn't see it anymore.  If you don't say enough, you are irresponsible and then responsible for the outcome.

You know what else?  It's really hard to have someone you care about, really believe something that you know beyond any doubt that it is wrong.  Especially when your love is not enough anymore.  Not enough to shatter the unbelief of truth.  Not enough to smother the belief of falsehood.

It's really hard to know something and have others not believe you.  Especially when it's really important.  Especially when one of those is someone you love.

Friday, January 8, 2010

On Being Tall


I began life petite.  5.5lbs and 18" long.

Ah yes, I know and was told by many that tall women are so elegant and graceful.  Like the Tolkien Elves, their walk is beautiful and they exude an air of command when they enter a room. I wouldn't exchange short for tall but there were times!

Petite was not to be my lot.  When I was a little girl, I grew tall but we don't really care about those things.  I'm tall, you're short, so what.  We just like to play and laugh and imagine.  I loved roller skating, jump roping, (especially double-dutch), hop scotch, jacks, tether ball, balance beam, parallel bars, swinging, climbing trees, drawing trees, play dough, play houses...what you look like matters not compared to all that fun!  No one notices.

There are those times, however, like when the teacher always puts you in the back row.  Back row was for tall kids.  I could never stand beside my friends, like Korry Beckstead.  She was so pretty.  Her face, her hair and she was just the perfect size.  They all stood together, my friends, on the front row of short people.  Why were my best friends always front row size and I always have to be on the back row?

 A time seems to come to all when looks matter more.  At this time the dress code changed.  Girls had always had to wear a dress to school.  Dresses were great living in California. They were cool on those hot days and pretty and easy to fit.  But now, new laws allowed girls to wear pants to school.  I was excited because even in California there are cold days when our little girl legs would just freeze!  Dresses soon were out.  All the girls wore pants to school because they could.  And, because let's face it, they were comfortable, warm, easier to play on the playground and it seemed more fun.

What wasn't fun was that no one made pant legs or coat sleeves for tall girls with petite weight.  My mom would take me to town to try on clothes and I just had to face the fact.  My arms and legs were on the back row while my coat sleeves and pant legs were on the front row. 

We don't get to choose some things.  I wanted to be the perfect size like all my friends.  I began to pray at night that I would please stop growing taller.  I would curl up in a ball and in the morning though my body ached to stretch, I refrained, fearing I would indeed stretch myself to yet another inch.  

Time flew and I didn't grow as tall as I feared, and being a tall woman is much easier than being a tall teen.  Sadly however, I'm doomed to wearing flat shoes for life.  Sometimes I drool over the pretty high healed shoes.  Oftentimes I meet a woman taller than I am and wearing flat shoes.   I wonder if her friends were all on the front row and if she dealt better as a kid with her back row size than I did.  

Ah yes, I know and was told by many that tall women are so elegant and graceful.  Like the Tolkien Elves, their walk is beautiful and they exude an air of command when they enter a room. I wouldn't exchange short for tall but yes, there were times!

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Unfinished Stories of Ordinary Women

So what of the woman
Who never got a grand degree
Nor career or title or honor of man.
So what of the woman
Who married at 20
Bore children
Accepted callings
Labored in the home and kingdom
And had nothing more than that to boast of -
No great story to write a book about
No great hardship worthy to be mentioned
In a general conference talk.
So what of the woman
With no great beauty to be admired
Nor talent noticed by others?
What of she who is ordinary
Working hard each day
To please those she loves
Her heart filled with hope
For their progress & happiness.
Is there a place of honor for her?
Is there anything worthy of admiration for her
when the world is full of
women of beauty, talent, degrees, careers
boasting books, CD’s, television & magazines?
Praise these accomplished women!
So what of the woman who never got a grand degree
nor career or title or honor of man?
Is there any praise for her unheralded accomplishments
made day after day?
Perhaps not.
But she is one who goes on.
She needs no praise.
She goes forth with strength of heart from God.
This is her praise:
To need not praise.

                                Answer from President Uchtdorf:

God knows that some of the greatest souls who have ever lived are those who will never appear in the chronicles of history.  They are the blessed, humble soul who emulate the Savior's example and spend the days of their lives doing good.

God sees you not only as a mortal being on a small planet who lives for a brief season - He sees you as His child.  He sees you as the being you are capable and designed to become.  He wants you to know that you matter to Him.


Thursday, April 16, 2009

Envying Starfish

 All the Starfish are asking me                     

To throw them into the sea. 

I am running

As fast as I can

tossing one and then another

While yet hearing the requests                                

of an endless


Seashore of needs.

 

Perhaps I shall


Throw myself into the sea for just a little while.


Tuesday, January 8, 2008

A Love Like That


 When I was young I pictured love to be like Prince Charming & Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella or Snow White.  They meet, fall in love, embrace and become one in mind, heart and soul.  They are attentive to each other and their desire for children would make them become one in the flesh.

I hear many times older couples say that they loved each other more and more each day.  More than the day they were married.  For some reason I had trouble believing that and wondered if they were being truthful.

In my Grandmothers kitchen she had a plaque that read "Kissin' don't last. Cookin' do".  I always thought that must be part of the loving each other more and more as they grew old.  They trade the kissin' physical stuff, needed for procreation, in for a deeper, truer love:

A love that sits together at the breakfast table & still talks about the future.
A love that happens in the day time.
A love you see through a look in their eyes, a smile on their lips and a touch of the hand.
A love that can sense the other's feelings and cares about them.
A love that isn't critical but encouraging.
A love that doesn't drive them to bed but rather progresses them forward in their love of God and like-mindedness with each other and their goals and desires to succeed in God's eye.
A love that turns their desires outward from self to others.
A love that has melded them together into one whole. Best friends, eternal partners.
A love where time works it's magic through all they've been through together.
A love that's called sweetheart, mommy, daddy, grandma, grandpa.
A love that truly does love more and more each day, more than the day they were married.

Friday, May 19, 2006

The Problem of Hats

                                                    All in a Day: 

My hat- Drea and I signed up to deliver phonebooks, 300 of them, as a band fundraiser. Problem - I arrived at the room to pick them up and it was locked.  Patience helped me wait.  Seems things always take longer than you expect.  I load 300+ books into the pickup.

Mom hat - Kids got home, Andrea needs a present for Amy who's birthday is tomorrow.  Andrea's problem is now mine because she needs a ride to the store.

Bishop's wife's hat - Phone rings.  A widow lady in our ward is needing help.  Her pump broke.  Her home teacher moved and she doesn't know if she has a new one and the HP group leader's phone remains unanswered.  Her problem is now mine.  Hmmm who should I call to pass the problem to?

Daughter hat - Phone rings.  It's Mom Clarke and she's not at all well.  Many troubles physically and emotionally.  Her problems are shared with my listening ear.

Mom hat - Andrew announces he need to be 30 min. early for mutual because he has a presidency meeting.  His problem is now mine and Andrea's because it's not worth two trips so Drea has to go early and she's working on a huge report.

VT hat - Phone rings.  It's Izola.  She need a ride to Dr. Apt. tomorrow.  Hmmm...I'll be in town earlier in the day for something else I need to be to.  Do I kill time for an hour waiting to pick her up or go home and back in.

It's never convenient to wear many hats.  My Debbie hat seems to find plenty of problems but when I add the Mom hat, bishop's wife hat, daughter hat, VT hat all in a day, it becomes a difficult balancing act. I guess only the lonely have just a single hat to wear.

Saturday, October 16, 2004

I Am the Good Fairy

 

The phone rang. 

I answered.

"Do you have a minute", the voice asked me.

I answered yes as shook my head no, realizing this call would be over an hour & I really didn't have the time to spare.  

Then...in my mind I thought to myself "A minute? Actually I hope I have 30 to 40 more years!"

What is an hour here and there when you see 30-40 more years ahead.  

Suddenly I felt less crushed by time.  Of course I have time.  Time is all there is and until I die, I will have time here on Earth.

Perhaps when I'm too old to call upon for help - perhaps then I will have time for the things I need and want to do.  I will bloom and emerge as a rainbow after a storm, bright and colorful.  But then I will be too old to dance.  That's okay though.  There are plenty of dancers in the world making people happy as they perform.  Plenty of singers and painters and creators of everything.

Someday I'll have the voice to sing the songs I want to sing from my heart.  I'll dance from my soul and paint the sky as I fly on colorful wings. 

And I'll keep granting people's wishes.


Sunday, May 7, 2000

Thoughts about Mothers Day

Mothers Day when I was a kid was always gloriously sunny and warm with birds singing and flowers all abloom.  All the mom's stood to get their flower or other gift during sacrament meeting.  I'd see them in the hall smiling at their flower saying how they didn't like all the fuss of mothers day and some even said they hated it but I could tell they liked the flowers.  I was always curious about that.

When I became a mom and stood to get my flower for the first time I remember feeling proud and thrilled at the new little baby that allowed me to stand with this new title and I did feel a little embarrassed about all the fuss too.  I heard ladies in the hall saying the very same things I heard ladies say when I was little.  Some felt guilty.  That's what women are good at.  We have the ideal woman in our minds eye and realize how far we fall short of it.  All the talks and poems and songs make us feel a little guilty as we realize that we still have some improvements to do.  

Some moms didn't like mothers day at all.  It made them sad because they missed their mom's who had passed on and others because they felt cheated as a kid because they had a bad mom.  Some women were sad because they never were able to be a mom and even though the gospel teaches us that this blessing will not be denied to any faithful daughter of God and that this life is just a mere pin dot of time on the long time line of eternity, the sadness is still real.

Moms do a lot!  We all know what they do. It can be said in one word.  Everything!  Moms get pulled in so many directions, they don't even know what direction they're going sometimes.  So if you think your mom seems a little crazy mixed up in the head sometimes, it's because she is -  sometimes - from being tossed around and half drowned on a sea of life that seems unending - sometimes.

Moms seem to like to worry too much.  Sometimes they are a basket case. They cry when they're happy, they cry when they're sad.  Look at your Mom's face to see if she is happy.  I loved Mom to be happy.  I try to remember that now.  Every child deserves a happy mom.  Moms worry because they love so much.  They feel their children's pain.  Children don't always know that their mom cries for them.  Women feel the pain of their friends.  They want to fix everything.  They plead with the Lord to take the pain away from those they love.  Moms would gladly bare the pain for loved ones if the Lord would allow it, but He in His greater & infinite wisdom knows the greater purposes behind suffering that are beyond our understanding.  So suffer they do.  They even weep for strangers whose sad stories are told in the news and they pray for the Lord to hurry and come and take away all the bad guys and wipe the tears from those who mourn.  Then there will be true joy,  It is hard to feel the full joy of joy when others around you are sorrowing.

One of my favorite Mother's day was in 1999 in the Lahaina Hawaii ward on Maui.  Br. Mathius was playing the prelude music and then came down and sat by us. Someone else in the ward played congregational hymns and someone else played postlude music.  The chorister noticed Chris because she could hear him sing.  She actually called upon Chris to sing a solo on verse two of the closing hymn!  The Bishop then took his lei off and gave it to Chris to give to me!  An old Hawaiian man with a thick pigeon accent gave the most sweet sincere closing prayer.  He prayed to Heavenly Father and said "On behalf of this congregation we ask thee to send our love to our mother in heaven and to send to her a very happy mothers day from all of us."